Butterfly or Moth? Embracing Unexpected Growth in Life and Faith
“Becoming something new—this is hard!” thought the caterpillar.
She remembered shedding her skin several times. Each time she looked a little different, but deep down, she knew she still wasn’t who she was meant to be. So she built a cocoon. It was hard work, but it gave her a safe place to rest, to wait, to trust.
Inside the safety of her cocoon, she dreamed of reemerging as a beautifully free and admired butterfly. But the voice of doubt whispered: What if this process takes too long? What if I never change? What if I’m just a caterpillar pretending to grow and change?
When the moment finally came, she pushed her way out of the cocoon to discover—she was a moth.
Not the outcome she expected.
Not a butterfly—but just as extraordinary. Moths weave silken beauty. They navigate darkness guided by light. They rarely receive the same admiration as butterflies, but their transformation is no less remarkable or valuable.
The truth about growth—whether in our mental health or our faith journey—is that it rarely turns out the way we imagined.
Reframing Change
The practice of looking at challenges through a new lens is what Psychologists call cognitive reframing. Instead of asking, Why didn’t I get the outcome I wanted? try asking, What can I learn from this situation? What is God doing here?
This perspective shift won’t erase disappointment, but it creates space for hope and resilience.
Another key skill is building tolerance for uncertainty. Like the caterpillar in her cocoon, we must often sit in the unknown, waiting for something to take shape. Mindfulness—focusing and slowing your breath, grounding yourself in the present—can help calm the anxiety of uncertainty—the discomfort of not knowing.
An important note to self: healthy transformation doesn’t happen in isolation. Over the past few years, I’ve discovered that my greatest growth has taken place in community. Being surrounded by encouragement, prayer, and accountability has given me the strength I couldn’t find alone. Both psychology and Scripture affirm this truth: we are designed to grow together (Hebrews 10:24–25).
Finally, celebrate the small steps. Healing and change don’t arrive overnight. Each moment of courage, each choice to keep going, the next step, doing the next right thing, each prayer whispered in faith is part of your transformation.
Transformation Through a Spiritual Lens
Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference.
From a faith perspective, when life doesn’t unfold the way we expect, God’s hand is still at work.
Ecclesiastes 3:11 reminds us: “He has made everything beautiful in its time.”
1 Samuel 16:7 teaches that God does not judge us by outward appearance but by the heart.
2 Corinthians 5:17 promises that in Christ, we are made new.
Butterfly or moth, seen or unseen, admired or ordinary—God values the transformation itself.
The Takeaway
Change is rarely easy, often hard, and it may surprise us. Whether your journey feels like butterfly wings or moth wings, your becoming matters. With supportive community, a compassionate mindset, and trust in God’s timing, you can face unexpected challenges with resilience and peace.
You are being transformed—perhaps not into what you imagined, but into who you are meant to be.
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